When I think about marriage and what it means to me- in terms of the benefits, absolute best parts of it, I think of relief- of not being alone, of having MY partner, of security- financial, emotional even physical security; I relish in the thought of KNOWING that this person will be with me FOREVER to stand by me and laugh with me and cry with me and support me and I him no matter what! When I think of marriage, I think of nothing but good things! Wonderful things! Fufillment of a lifetime of dreams! Ever since I was a little girl, I could not wait to get married. Not just because of the wedding- although I have always had a fixation on weddings (just take a look at my current job, hello), I have always been much MORE preoccupied with the MARRIAGE part of a wedding. I don't just want a wedding... I want a MARRIAGE.
I even used to sleep next to the wall in high school so I could pretend somebody was there with me. I always felt just so alone, and being married, or even being in a relationship now, heals so many of those old wounds.
But this is what I have heard from so many men, over and over again: Marriage = Responsibility.
"I'm not ready for the responsibility of marriage or a relationship yet." Over and over. From all kinds of men or boys from all walks of life. Marriage = responsibility. Why do guys think like that? Why is marriage something to be dreaded? To fear? The "ol' ball and chain," who makes up this junk?
I don't get it. Someone explain it to me. I mean, I can think of some things, like perhaps there is a loss of freedom or maybe you can't do exactly what you want to do the moment you want to do it, but... how do any of those "whines" compare to all the benefits.
Ok, married ladies. S'plain!
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I think it depends upon what age a guy is when he gets married...someone younger might look at it as "his life is over", where as someone that has sowed his wild oats looks forward to the marriage and what all comes with it. I think it goes way back to the old fashioned times that the man is responsible for everything and the woman stays home and births 10+ babies..lol..times have changed and nowadays most couples both work.
When its an equal partnership the man shouldn't feel like he has a ball and chain. Some women are more demanding on their husbands and so they end up feeling this way.
My husband and I do everything equally...I don't expect him to do anything and he doesn't expect me to do anything in particular...although both of us have taken on particular roles/responsibilities neither one of us feel like it is solely our "job" and either one of us would gladly do each others "tasks"...not sure if that makes any sense! lol
And yes! I'd love to see that price list!! Send it to me at nevergrowingold@hotmail.com
Sorry for the age discrimination! You know I love ya!!! :)
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